Are you scared?
I am.
I'm scared like I haven't been in a really long time.


I'm overwhlemed.

With the fear of something terrible happening to those I love...

With a sense of helplessness...

With the absolute and complete lack of control...

With the uncertainty, the doubt, the "not knowing what the future holds" of this moment in time...

It is difficult to put into words.

And I would bet some of you feel the same.


I rage - a lot.

I cry - a lot.

And just as you may, I shake in both the sorrow and anger of what is happening to hundreds of thousands of people

(some of whom I know).


But I also know this:

I have been this scared before.
I have felt this helpless before
I have been this angry before.
And I have come through it.

Just as you have.


What do I do?
I let the tears come when I'm moved to cry.
I pray to G-d to hold all of us close.
I meditate every single night.
I treat my body as kindly and as carefully as possible.
I protect my loved ones to the best of my ability.

What do YOU do?


So here's a thought

Let's be.
Let's be afraid together.
Let's be angry together.
Let's be uncertain together.
Let's share what we are doing right now - to assuage our fear, pass the time, stay healthy and stay connected,
Let's be and feel "all the things."
But while we're at it,
Let's also remind ourselves - and one another - that we have survived some of the worst possible life experiences.

We can do this too.

With hope for a brighter tomorrow.

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Unlike some whom may have unfortunately
crossed your path...
In this community,
There is no judgment.
There is no ridicule.
There is no disdain.

In this community,
We do not question.
We do not use well-worn, cookie-cutter clichés.
We do not avoid the tough subjects
simply because they are too painful to discuss.

In this community,
we are not afraid to share what we wish
out of fear that others are either
uncomfortable with our pain,
or just don't want to hear about "it" anymore.

In this community,
We do not abandon,
nor do we turn others away.

We just DON'T.

Because we know exactly how all of these things feel.
And we will never treat others in the same fashion.

In this community,
We discuss.
We share.
We lift up the spirits of others.
We create a safe and sacred haven for the bereaved;
particularly those who may feel as though they have
no other haven in their lives.

We teach
We suggest.
We listen.
We meet new friends who understand.
Truly understand.

We cry together.
We laugh together.
We hope together.
We learn together through the uncertainty of today
and yearn together for the brighter tomorrows.


We just DO.

And we deserve it,
As do those who unwittingly - yet necessarily -
join this community behind us.

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Included below are resources that you may find helpful in pursuing your healing journey.*** 




*National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: (800) 273-8255. Help is available by telephone twenty-four hours a day; seven days a week. www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org 


* Alcoholics Anonymous:  www.aa.org. 


* Narcotics Anonymous:  www.na.org. 


* National Eating Disorders Association: (800) 931-2237 www.nationaleatingdisorders.org.


* Gamblers Anonymous: www.gamblersanonymous.org. 


* Debtors Anonymous (compulsive shopping / spending): www.debtorsanonymous.org 


* Sexual Compulsives Anonymous (SCA): www.sca-recovery.org.  


* Mental Health America (“Cutting” or other means of self-harm): www.mentalhealthamerica.net




* The American Widow Project: www.americanwidowproject.org:


* TAPS (Tragedy Assistance Program for Survivors) www.taps.org 


* Soaring Spirits Loss Foundation at www.sslf.org and www.campwidow.org


* Social Security Administration www.ssa.gov


* Department of Veterans Affairs (for military widowed and surviving family members): www.va.gov


***Please note that no suggestion and/or recommendation is meant to replace expert medical or legal assistance.  Carole Brody Fleet, her representatives and / or employees or assigns do not receive any remuneration whatsoever for any recommendations made herein.